A Dad’s Golden Rule-book for raising Boys

A Dad’s Golden Rule-book for raising Boys

Take a printout of this, let it turn yellow, after which you can proudly pass it on you to your little fella when he grows up. He will treat it as a legacy when he has kids of his own.

  1. Be home for dinner.
  2. Be his father, not his friend. If you don’t understand the difference, imagine his confusion when you must discipline him.
  3. Teach him that true independence means he pays.
  4. Make sure he knows his full name, address, and his parent’s names and phone numbers. Many four-year-olds only know their father’s name is “Daddy”.
  5. Teach him how to plant a flower. It involves three things he loves – dirt, digging and garden hoses.
  6. Teach him to open a door for his mom, sister and date!
  7. Show him how to clean his room. Little boys don’t just absorb this through osmosis.
  8. Display his artwork in your office. Even that weird astray thing and, let him know.
  9. Let him hang out with you. Remember, he has a need to be around you, to learn what being a man is all about.
  10. Talk to him about drugs and alcohol early, from the time he’s about five years old. Because if you don’t, somebody else will.
  11. Teach him to return what he borrows.
  12. Explain the simple mechanics of his bicycle and teach him to lock his bike.
  13. Ask him who his heroes are, or introduce him to a few yourself. These are the people he’ll copy growing up.
  14. Remember little boys love their grandfathers. No one really knows why.
  15. Never tell him boys don’t cry. Ask him why he’s crying and then tell him to do so only when he is really hurt.
  16. Even if you can, don’t buy him everything.
  17. Teach him never to be afraid to try new things.
  18. Show him how to lift weights and do push-ups.
  19. Read the sports section with him.
  20. Teach him nothing is free.
  21. Never be afraid to say, “We can’t afford it.”
  22. Never criticize his mother in front of him. Never, never, never.
  23. Teach him to compliment his mother’s cooking. Even when it’s broccoli and rice.
  24. Talk to him about his dreams. And about yours.
  25. Hug him before bedtime every night. Even when he’s eighteen.
  26. Make sure he spends time around his aunts and uncles, cousins, and grandparents. He may not like all of them, but he’ll develop a love for family.
  27. Teach him how to channel his anger.
  28. Try not to criticize him in front of his friends.
  29. Put his computer in the family room. No matter what he says, he can get his homework done there.
  30. Teach him that men do clean up the kitchen and the house. Every day.
  31. Teach him how to look someone in the eye and to shake hands firmly and always reach out first when they meet someone.
  32. Teach him not to judge a book by its cover. Or a girl by her looks.
  33. Teach him to respect his teachers, his elders, the police, even his crazy aunt. Disrespectful kids go nowhere in life.
  34. Teach him to never let people put his family down, Friends come and go, family is forever.
  35. Monitor his internet activity and tell him you’ll monitor his cell phone, too.
  36. Teach him to stand up for his brothers and sisters.
  37. Show him how to change a tire. If you don’t know how, get someone to teach both of you.
  38. Teach your son to be funny, a man with a sense of humour is sexy.
  39. Teach him how to scratch or adjust his balls in private, definitely not with a spoon.
  40. Teach him that the solution to most problems isn’t a pill.
  41. Show him how to read a map.
  42. In the end,
  43. Let him go.
Courtesy : Inspired by a book, “Father to Son” authored by Harry Harrison Jr
Photo by Warren Wong on Unsplash

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